shattered

I like so many things.

50 shades of grey

One of a million reminders from someone who actively enjoys bdsm. Bdsm is NOT fairly represented in 50 shades of grey. People who are against that movie are not necessarily against bdsm. People who are pro bdsm don’t necessarily support 50 shades. 50 shades doesn’t uphold our “safe sane and consensual” mantra, but true bdsm can be unbelievably loving, intimate, and passionate. For those of you who don’t know much about bdsm PLEASE do not let this one movie/book influence your opinion of it.

theblackship:

miss-love:


I just want to bring this backwhile we’re pretending girls in nerd culture don’t have it bad
NATALIE PORTMAN was accused of being a “fake nerd girl”THIS IS HOW FAR THE IGNORANCE GOESIT GOES THIS FAR 

theblackship:

miss-love:

I just want to bring this back
while we’re pretending girls in nerd culture don’t have it bad

NATALIE PORTMAN was accused of being a “fake nerd girl”
THIS IS HOW FAR THE IGNORANCE GOES
IT GOES THIS FAR 

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Anonymous asked: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?

middleclassreject:

dysonrules:

aconissa:

50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

REBLOG FOREVER.

Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society 

cleolinda:

cinematicnomad:

apparently e.l. james called former child star mara wilson (matilda) a “sad fuck” for critiquing the 50shades books a while ago and now there’s a feud. i love it.

(via finnegans-snooze)

literarysins:

In light of the 50 Shades of Grey trailer coming out today, quick reminder that that book is about an abusive and controlling relationship, not BDSM.

Fanfiction (published or not) is important for women of all ages to explore gender roles and sexuality in a way that is less stigmatized and more accessible. 

But do not do the BDSM community a disservice by calling the relationship described in the book a standard BDSM experience. 

(via razor-to-the-rosary)